envy is an empty emotion

15 Nov

When I was a teenager my mum once said to me “Never be jealous of someone else,  you never know what life might throw at them.”

At the time I was 14 and jealous of EVERYONE.  Jealous of Kate for the money her mum gave her to buy the naughtiest knee high boots I’d ever seen. Jealous of Lucy for the boys that she kissed and of Rachel for the pink Kickers she wore with her white denim skirt. I was covetous of Ruth’s copy of We are Transvision Vamp! and bemoaned the passing resemblance she had to Wendy James, and I swooned when I heard about Carol’s trip to Hollywood where she was chatted up at the airport by a Michael J fox lookalike.

It turned out Kate had the clothes but her father had not hung around for long, that Ruth’s mum was having an affair with the local vicar and would fall pregnant with his child 2 years later, and that Carol’s father lost his job and they would never get to go on another holiday again.

So don’t be jealous of me for my beautiful, healthy boys for whom I fell pregnant easily. Don’t envy the nice big house I’m hoping to buy, or the time I am able to take out to reassess my life.  I am lucky in so many ways, but I also lost both my parents to be here.

Life gives and takes in equal measure. Your grass might be greener than mine but I have a kick ass mower.

9 Responses to “envy is an empty emotion”

  1. imoncrackers123 November 15, 2011 at 12:42 pm #

    Life is all about energies. Remember that it can’t be created or destroyed. Why then waste your energy with envy, which will only lead you to destructive actions, when you can use that energy to better yourself or a loved one? The grass may be greener on the other side, but until you look closer you don’t know the difference between green luxurious grass and green painted cement. It’s better to water your grass than stay in wonderment over what you think is a a perfect yard; a yard is only a partial view of a person’s home. Have you checked their closet?

  2. jfb57 November 15, 2011 at 7:09 pm #

    We need to be reminded of this regularly & this is a great reminder. I may need to borrow that kick ass mower from the looks of my grass already!

  3. Nadia November 15, 2011 at 7:58 pm #

    Well said , Henrie and so true. I remember being envious of my friend who fell pregnant with her second baby easily while I was playing that long and tortuous waiting game. She lost that baby on her due date and I felt so bad for ever having felt those feelings. I really hope the house comes through for you and something positive ends your tragic year. Xxx

  4. Simone @Greatfun4kids November 15, 2011 at 9:24 pm #

    Beautiful and perfect
    I LOVE that picture and your words gave me the goosebumps.
    its so TRUE, envy is empty, and you never what price people have paid for what they have and where they are; some things come easy to us where others struggle; but we have scars from battles they’ll never know about.
    In the end, we just have to make the most with what we have

  5. Jessica November 15, 2011 at 10:29 pm #

    I completely agree! I hate it when you’re (universal “you’re”) judged based on what someone sees on the surface…when they have no idea how you got to that particular point in life.

    There are trade offs for everything.

    • imoncrackers123 November 20, 2011 at 1:19 pm #

      People will judge because it is in our nature. We need a way to quickly categorize and assess people. There is no changing that. The only thing you can do is to live life as you want to and acknowledge that your own judgement is the only one that matters. People will respect you for living life on your own accord, and those who don’t, aren’t worth your time.

  6. Maija @ Maija's Mommy Moments November 16, 2011 at 1:52 am #

    So true. So very very true. I think back to those I was envious of in the past and compare our lives now and I wouldn’t trade mine for anything. Then I think of the things pekoe may have been envious of me in the past and want to give them a glimps unto my life back then and show them exactly what you have said… That everything comes with a price.

    • Maija @ Maija's Mommy Moments November 16, 2011 at 2:17 am #

      Ugh! iPhone spell check! Sorry!

  7. Mrs TeePot November 20, 2011 at 6:47 pm #

    So, so true. Something everyone needs to remember, including me!

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