Milk retrospective: In praise of my mum

11 Feb

Originally posted May 6th 2010.

I never realised until I had my boys.

Just what you put in. Every day. Every night.

How hard you worked.

What you sacrificed.

Children always dwell on the things you didn’t get quite right.

The things they think you shouldn’t have said.

How much calmer/fairer/more understanding you could have been.

What the “perfect” parent would have done.

Only now that I am that parent do i start to comprehend. You weren’t so short of perfection after all.

Near, yet far away enough to be a friend.

How much you achieved.

How much I have to learn from you.

What we can now share.

It’s so long overdue.

Thank you.

18 Responses to “Milk retrospective: In praise of my mum”

  1. icklebabe February 11, 2011 at 3:27 pm #

    beautiful, and so true X

  2. Lady-like Pervert February 11, 2011 at 4:20 pm #


  3. Chris Mosler February 11, 2011 at 4:59 pm #

    Spot on my lovely. xxx

  4. bsouth February 11, 2011 at 5:21 pm #

    I love this post. xxx

  5. Hollie February 11, 2011 at 5:34 pm #

    And when you thought all your school friends mums were cooler it’s not until your in your late 20’s and 30’s that you realise that you have a best friend for life and that they are actually the coolest most perfect person you have ever known. X dedicated to my mum who was taken from me far far too soon x

  6. Vegemitevix February 11, 2011 at 6:39 pm #

    A beautiful post. I remember when I realised this about my own Mum. What it really takes to be a Mum. Much love to you and your Mum xx

  7. kelloggsville February 11, 2011 at 7:08 pm #

    Very true. Sending hugs for what must be a very difficult time for you right now xox

  8. Kirrily February 11, 2011 at 7:30 pm #

    Oh that is so true. Poignant.

  9. Deer Baby February 11, 2011 at 7:50 pm #

    So true. You never realise until you’re a Mum yourself.

  10. Lucy February 11, 2011 at 9:04 pm #

    Beautiful words, beautiful sentiments x

  11. Lucy February 11, 2011 at 10:22 pm #

    I am so glad you have these feelings. They will cushion you. xx

  12. susie@newdaynewlesson February 12, 2011 at 9:11 pm #

    Sending you lots and lots of hugs.

  13. Jenny paulin February 13, 2011 at 7:35 pm #

    What a beautiful piece of writing and so, so true.
    So sorry for what you are going through at the moment.

  14. TheMadHouse February 13, 2011 at 7:46 pm #

    I hope you know that I have been thinking of you everyday since I found out. Take care, make the most of every second and I am sending you all my thoughts and prayers.

  15. Theodora February 14, 2011 at 2:08 pm #

    This is a beautiful post. I do hope your mum sees it. Because we never do realise until we’re doing it ourselves how very tough this is…

  16. scribblingmum February 15, 2011 at 9:29 pm #

    I can remember this post very well from when I read it the first time, enjoyed reading it again tonight x

  17. Alexander Residence February 17, 2011 at 11:37 pm #

    I feel like I am still patching together bits I have seen on twitter, sorry. I just wanted to say I am thinking of you.
    Gorgeous post. So true. I have lists and lists of stuff now that my mum ‘did’ for me. Now she isn’t here it is the most amazing blueprint for a life well lived. Keep writing.

  18. missjacq February 19, 2011 at 3:37 am #

    That has seriously just brought tears to my eyes. Thats so beautiful.

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