A few weeks of, quite frankly, pretty uncomfortable infighting amongst the “mummy blogging” populus has made me contemplate just what exactly is driving this angst? First it was the long standing debate of commercialising personal blogs, then it was The MADS, and most recently the Blogladesh campaign that has seen some of the best mummy bloggers being sponsored to visit India and blog about it. Usually i quite like a bit of gossip and infighting (come on, we all do) but this has all just really turned me off.
Of course, some of you will just say – any community of strongly opinionated peoples (and as bloggers, a lot of us are likely to be that) will occasionally lead to a clash in opinion, and when these differences are aired from behind a computer screen, false confidence will push people to go that little bit further. But actually i think it’s a bit more than that.
Do the fundamental differences between those of us blogging for pleasure and those doing it as a business ultimately drive us apart? If you’re blogging just for creative pleasure there’s no real political motive, no need for success in itself (apart of course from inflating the old ego). However, if you’re reliant on your blog/website for earning money your professional reputation is paramount so you’re less likely to tolerate flippant comments, things that might cause damage. So you take it all a lot more seriously. And quite understandably.
But if the rest of us are just there for enjoyment, for a bit of banter, we might not want to take it all that seriously. The kind of comments you’re likely to see from us when things are getting a bit heated are flippant ones (no surprises there), acronyms like ROFL or FFS.
So there’s bound to be a clash isn’t there?
I know i was accused recently of not researching my post into depression. I came back at that criciticsm by saying i didn’t feel i needed to. After all, my blog, my opinion. It’s not as if i was researching for a medical journal. However, if my blog was my job, then of course i’d do a bit more checking before i published some of my comments. But it’s not. It’s my space, and as bloggers like to say, if you don’t like what i say you can move on.
I know i don’t want to be constrained by fear of not getting statistics quite right, or not having enough evidence to back up a point of view. But then again i can also completely sympathise with those whose business is totally dependant on reputation. Where one unfair comment can strike two blogger black eyes in an instant, and leave scars for a long time afterwards.
So where does this leave us? Are we going to have to look at some kind of enforced segratation? At keeping these two types of bloggers apart for fear of implosion?
Ok, so perhaps that’s a bit extreme. I’d just quite like everyone to be friends again.